In this article I’m going to explain how the people surrounding you, in your day to day life, from the supermarket cashier, to your coworker, to your best friend, to your spouse, combined together, are actually….. you.
Chapter 1 : Core Values -Virtues and Vices
Our core values are made up of virtues and vices. To understand this better lets choose 10 virtues, and 10 vices, as an example, and attribute different colors for each one, so you can identify them in the further images.
The virtues that we posses at our core, never change. Once we learn a virtue, in this lifetime, or in other lifetimes, it sticks in our core forever, because expansion can’t be reversed. It is true we might forget about it, and it might become stagnant, but it will never disappear from our core.
We also have some core vices. These can change in a lifetime, but usually it’s not that easy. Major life changes and experiences can cause us to remove a vice from our core, but it may take multiple lifetimes, depending on each soul.
When you live your day to day life, these core values, are not activated all at the same time. Depending on your past experiences, present decisions, and outer influences, that you cannot control, you will be tempted to focus only on certain virtues, or vices each day.
Sometimes, we can have a core value, that has not been activated in a long time, and it may become stagnant, but it won’t disappear completely.
No matter the circumstances, we always have a choice on what to focus, thus what is activating within us and what not.
Chapter 2 : The people around us
Ok, so now let’s explain how the people around us, are actually…us.
Well, you will always attract in your life, someone that has one or a couple of core values as you do. It may be activated in them more than in you and vice-versa, but you cannot attract something that is not already in you.
Since each day is not quite the same, sometimes you feel more happy and sometimes more sad, the people with whom you interact each day will differ.
The more close to you a person is, or in other words, the more time you spend with someone, the more core values you have in common with that person, or you have a few that are highly activated in both of you, thus making you two a match.
When we incarnate to this planet, our purpose is to dissolve certain vices, or to learn new virtues. The contrast in this reality is powerful enough to create an important shift within us.
To dissolve a certain vice, we must activate more of its opposite, until the vice is completely erased from our core values. For example, love is the opposite of fear, so the more we focus on love, the more fear will be deactivated, becoming stagnant, and then it will be pushed away (repelled).
An other way to get rid of vices, is to occupy as much of the core space as possible with virtues, either by activating all the ones you already posses or learn new ones. This will leave too little space for the vices to occupy, since the virtues have priority in the core circle.
This explains how certain people from your life simply go away naturally. Either you move away from each other, or simply stop talking, and neither of you has the impulse to keep it going, since the thing that hold you together is now long gone.
That’s why it is never a good idea to force things and try to maintain a relationship with someone that has nothing in common with you anymore, cause it can cause even more problems. Imagine trying to stick together 2 magnets with the repelling poles. It takes a lot of force and it won’t last.
The same applies to the opposite situation, when you feel a strong pull towards someone, but you force yourself to stay away, because of various societal reasons. This act takes a lot of effort and can cause misery in the long run.
As a side note, this theory applies to everything you attract, not only people. It applies to animals, plants and objects, since they can absorb and reflect back to us certain values.
Chapter 3 : Soulmates
Lately I’m noticing a lot of articles around the topic of toxic relationships versus soulmate relationships. Let’s dig a bit into that, from the above perspective.
So basically, a toxic relationship, is one in which the things that bind you two together are mostly vices and not virtues. You get angry at the same things, you complain about the same things, and you hate the same kind of people. These type of relationships are really dangerous, because besides the fact that the vices in you are highly activated most of the time, in the presence of this person, you will also have multiple virtues to activate or to learn to dissolve the vices, and thus repelling your “dearly beloved”. Some people need multiple lifetimes to do this.
Technically this person is your soul “mate”, since you have things in common with them, but they are the kind of soulmate that will push you further the HARD WAY. You will learn virtues but after experiencing a lot of pain and turmoil.
Now let’s talk about the other type of soulmate. The good kind. Ever heard of the saying : “you bring out the best in me” ? Well that’s the one..
This is the soulmate that will activate in you the virtues. They may awaken some virtues that you had stagnant for a long time within you, and you are pushed to activate them. This is the person you will feel unconditional love towards to, you will laugh a lot with, have good times, and feel blissful, grateful, loving, and at peace. They will make you a better person, but through love, not through pain.
Chapter 4 : Conclusions
- The people around us are actually us ( not only people)
- If someone suddenly fades away from your life, let them go
- If you feel a strong pull towards someone, don’t fight to stay away, at least not until you find out what pulls you two together.
- To get rid of someone you don’t like, recognise the vices that stick you 2 together, and activate the opposite virtues or learn new virtues
- If a long lost friend returns in your life after a long time, you have gained new but similar values in this time frame
- If someone calls you only in the worst moments possible, now you know why.
So, I hope this information can help you in your journey, and be more aware of the people around you and how to change that. It is not always easy to do so, but the first step in everything in gaining knowledge.
Lots of love to you all!
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Laura Dogariu 